Looking for your Soul-mate?

Reprinted from The Christian Science Monitor

I have this crazy/wonderful, inspired idea. Everyone I encounter is my Soul-mate. Not in the lowercase “s” sense of the term, which involves doing laundry together and sharing catbox cleaning duties and taking long walks in the park on a Sunday afternoon. No, I am talking about the big “S” Soul, or God. Soul is a word used in Christian Science to describe God as the source of all beauty, individuality, and goodness. The Bible points to the beauty of the Lord our God upon us, which establishes good in our lives. In Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures, Mary Baker Eddy wrote, “Soul is synonymous with Spirit, God, the creative, governing, infinite Principle outside of finite form, which forms only reflect” (p. 71). She also explained, “Soul has infinite resources with which to bless mankind, and happiness would be more readily attained and would be more secure in our keeping, if sought in Soul” (p. 60).

Since God, Soul, is the source of all beauty, blessing, and happiness in my life, I can look at everyone around me as my Soul-mate and worthy of my love, attention, appreciation, respect, forgiveness, and whatever else I can possibly express of genuine goodness. However long the contact may be, I have something to give and to receive from the ones whom Soul, God, has put in my path. Guy who pumps my gas? Yup. My Soul-mate. Lady in the checkout line with the amazing braids in her hair? That’s her. My Soul-mate. Do I claim them as mine personally? No. They belong completely to God. But for the moments of our encounter, we are a gift to each other as the reflected love and light of Soul, divinely designed to share the best of who we are and of what we reflect of God through spirituality, goodness, and love.

I was appreciating this idea of my Soul-mate on a small commuter flight that was puddle-jumping between Seattle and a small town in western Washington State. The tiny plane was almost full, except for one little window seat next to me. The last person to board the flight was a rather portly gentleman who seemed quite self-conscious about his size in such a small space. As he came down the aisle searching out his seat number, I could practically feel his thought. “Oh, no, I have to squeeze into that little seat next to her!” But me? I was focused on thinking, “Well look-y here! Here comes my Soul-mate!” And with my best and brightest smile, I flipped up the armrest between our two seats, slid over against the window and said, “Please join me. There is plenty of room!” He slipped carefully into the seat, making every effort to pull himself in and take up as little room as possible.

Then the conversation began.

You would have thought we were best friends. We started talking and sharing as if we had known each other all our lives. Within a few moments, I saw him relax into his seat and spread out a bit, as he saw that I wasn’t bothered by his close proximity. We were the only two on the packed plane engaging in conversation, but we didn’t care. We laughed and shared stories, each genuinely enjoying the other one’s company.

He was to get off the plane one puddle stop before mine. As he rose to leave, I watched him open up like a big beautiful sunflower. Shoulders back, chest out, standing tall and no longer trying to shrink into invisibility, he turned to me and said, “This is the best flight I have ever taken in my life. Thank you.” And off went my lovely Soul-mate down the aisle.

I wasn’t sad to see him go because I knew that Soul, God, would always place a Soul-mate in my path. What we shared was a momentary, special encounter. But the friendship and laughter and genuine interest and kindness exchanged have stayed to bless me ever since.

Every contact with one of God’s children is a meeting with a Soul-mate. If you have been looking far and wide for the “one,” look to your right or left at the one the divine One has put next to you. There is someone precious waiting for you right there.

  1. Thank you for sharing this wonderful article, Michelle! I never realized the term "Soul-mate" before, though I have for a long time expressed this idea--I enjoy seeing new people wherever I go and share a smile, a comment, even an aura, if you will, of joy with them. While I've always been raised with the sensible rule "Don't talk to strangers" and my mom's continuous reminders to me to not be naive (too friendly) as I've sometimes been, letting myself get talked into buying candy or donating to such-and-such, I have grown and become wiser, more acute to listening to God and not letting myself get caught off-guard by those who are, sadly, trying to con us or take advantage of us.

    However, getting back on topic, throughout high school and college, I always yearned and hoped for my soul-mate (lowercase "s"), looking at random guys on the street, thinking, "Maybe he's my soul-mate" or trying to figure out a formula to finding a soul-mate (i.e.: Maybe next year, when I'm 22 it'll happen...) My poor mother having to listen to my silly pining! Finally, when I realized how fulfilling it is to simply LIVE each day and have an expectancy of good and interact with those Soul-mates around me, I began to let go of the wanting of a "soul-mate", thinking the common phrase, "Life's too short to waste your time worrying..."

    Well, as it turned out, after one horrible, self-depricating, relationship and two awkward short dating relationships later, I finally threw in the towel and said, "It does no good to search for something that isn't there (right now); I'm going to pursue holier, more fruitful things, such as embarking on a Master's Degree in Reading Education" which made me joyful--I love teaching and I am always earnestly trying to further my knowledge and understanding of my profession.

    Then, as if a small little voice snuck up on me, one Good Friday, I came face-to-face my special "Soul-mate"...when I was most humble and least expecting it...we both literally came face-to-face, both having the same feelings for each other! Now, almost 9 months later, it is still continuing with us, and I still continue to look for and embrace my other "Soul-mates" left and right, as you said.

    Thank you very much! You made my Monday Night!

  2. Oh this is heart warming! Thank you.

  3. Ahh Jaimie, What a special experience! So glad you shared that! You hit on it exactly. "It does no good to look for something that isn't there." In fact, our Soul-mate is always there. Once we break out of the narrow limits of defining what we'll accept from Soul, the abundance becomes obvious. It's all around! Thanks sooo much for sharing your story.

  4. This feels so happy. I love "Well looky-here!" I'll remember that. Many thanks.

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