
Practical spirituality can put a stop to suicide
Reprinted from the Christian Science Sentinel
HOPELESSNESS AND DEPRESSION ARE REPORTEDLY MAJOR CAUSES of suicide around the world. Sadly, more than a million people commit suicide annually.
The statistics are chilling. The worldwide rate is 16 suicides per 100,000 people. In the last 45 years, suicide rates have increased 60 percent, according to the World Health Organization. A study published in The Lancet, a British medical journal, reported that the average rate of suicide for women in southern India was a shocking 148 per 100,000, with 58 per 100,000 for men. China, Indonesia, and Sri Lanka also have disclosed alarmingly high rates of suicide among women.
In Russia and Eastern Europe, the rate for men is significantly higher than for women. In Lithuania, more than 80 men per 100,000 committed suicide. The Russian Federation reported 70 men and 12 women per 100,000 in 2000. While alcohol is considered a contributing factor in these regions, general hopelessness and economic frustration have played a part.
In the United States, suicide is the third leading cause of death of young people between the ages of 10 and 24. Males are four to six times more at risk than young women.
Regardless of demographics, hope can rise at any moment in the human heart. Because of this, there is nothing inevitable about suicide. Hope is an expectancy of good. It’s a feeling that one has the means to fulfill a treasured desire. Young people might feel that their destiny has been decided by others—for example, school authorities, parents, employers. It might seem that chance has clipped the wings of their dreams. Life might look predetermined, with hopes and dreams for happiness forever lost.
But “with God all things are possible” (Matt. 19:26 ). Regardless of circumstances, good is possible with God. In the midst of darkness, the divine light is shining hope into the human heart. It’s the light of the Christ that gently leads one out of despair and into renewed hope that good can and will happen.
In Mary Baker Eddy’s words, Christ is “the divine message from God to men speaking to the human consciousness” (Science and Health, p. 332). Christ is God’s gift to humanity. It’s not limited to one race or culture, age or denomination. The divine message brings safety, salvation, and hope to each individual.
There are stories in the Bible of this Christ-light coming to people even before the advent of Jesus. For example, the children of Israel were led through the wilderness by a pillar of fire at night. Wasn’t this the divine light leading an entire race from hopelessness and slavery into hope and freedom? That doesn’t mean there were no challenges in their journey from Egypt to the Promised Land and afterward. But the spiritual demands they faced in the wilderness, while onerous at first, became empowering later. The spiritual strengthening that went on in the wilderness gradually took away their intense focus on themselves, their actions, their comforts, and so on. The daily presence of God—as illustrated by the provision of manna and quail for them to eat and Moses’ daily communion with Deity—began to make an impression, to transform thought and instill a sense of belonging to God.
In the Western world, men might feel burdened by failure, but there’s also evidence that feelings of isolation, of not belonging—especially if they are reinforced by cliques that make a point of mocking “outsiders”—can be harmful. Believing that they don’t measure up to their own or others’ expectations, they jump to wrong conclusions. Persistent love from family and friends, and alertness to changes in behavior, are invaluable. Steady prayer for inspiration in knowing how to help an individual contemplating suicide is essential.
Patience and gratitude can restore hope. One approach that has helped many people who are tempted by suicide is to think of one good experience in their lives, however small, and then another and then another—and to affirm with each one that this is evidence of omnipotent goodness, present right now. This will turn their thoughts in the right direction. Friends can encourage this approach at times when an individual is struggling. Being grateful for little things will prepare a person to see bigger blessings—and “to-day is big with blessings” (Science and Health, p. vii).
Gratitude strengthens and supports patience. To patiently wait for good to happen isn’t “doing nothing,” if one is affirming his or her spirituality and inseparable relation to God—even in the face of discouragement. Patience as expressed in this passage from one of the Apostle Paul’s letters can save an individual from bolting just before a blessing arrives: “We know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose” (Rom. 8:28 ).
In the Eastern world, women are sometimes forced to submit to inhumane and harsh lives. Some apparent suicides may actually be murders. Either way, the more we value each individual and recognize her place as the child of an all-loving God, the more our prayer can help break women’s bondage.
Even when hardship is grinding a person into submission, the fact remains that there is a law of good operating in everyone’s life. God knows the good that you are doing. God sees all the good that is in you, and God sees all the good that you are capable of doing. Prayerful affirmation of God’s law of good gives wings to the struggling heart.
In some parts of the world, women are thought of as meant to do manual labor while men do all the thinking. This attitude doesn’t bless either gender, because it rejects the spiritual origin of all people. Women are valuable but not merely as sexual partners or workers. Women are creative, intelligent ideas. Praying for women to express wisdom and courage can help sustain them under severe trials.
Wisdom is practical spirituality. Women reflect the divine wisdom that comes from the divine Mind. Spiritual intuitions have the power to keep them safe. Our simple affirming that courage is a God-given quality can help women discover and feel the inner strength that is already theirs.
In our prayers for people, whether male or female, Eastern or Western, this passage from Science and Health can be helpful: “The metaphysician, making Mind his basis of operation irrespective of matter and regarding the truth and harmony of being as superior to error and discord, has rendered himself strong, instead of weak, to cope with the case; and he proportionately strengthens his patient with the stimulus of courage and conscious power. Both Science and consciousness are now at work in the economy of being according to the law of Mind, which ultimately asserts its absolute supremacy” (Science and Health, p. 423).
Gratitude, patience, wisdom, courage—they can spark the hope that is needed to stop suicide. Life is spontaneous and full of unexpected blessings. The next thought can be the saving one. The next person can be the helpful one. Never underestimate the power of good operating in your life and in others’ lives.


loveisall
- 9/24/2011The problem with people who are contemplating suicide is that they do not have the courage to live. If they do, they will not think about committing suicide. They just simply do not have the desire to live. That’s all. So asking for someone who plans to commit suicide to be grateful, wise, patient, and courageous is too much for a suicidal person.
Also in many cases, suicidal people are not surrounded by caring family members and/or friends, let alone those who show persistent love. Usually they are just left alone by the people around them. These people just show no mercy, no empathy. They are just good and seem caring only to people who are rich, famous, and powerful.
Blog Administrator
- 9/24/2011loveisall—
Are you familiar with the Bible’s book of Job? Job was a prosperous fellow who lost everything—his wealth, his family, and his health. His friends were no help; they kept telling him he must be a miserable sinner to have had all this misfortune. And his wife (the only family member left) is, if anything, even worse. She tells Job to curse God and die.
But Job doesn’t buy it. He consistently maintains his innocence—his spiritual innocence. He refuses to believe he’s a miserable sinner. As a result, he discovers he has a line of direct communication with God and gets a better understanding of God. And his wealth, family, and health are restored.
We all have that spiritual innocence. We all have that direct connection and communication with God. And, as Job found out, these give us access to God’s goodness here and now, not in some so-called afterlife. And this innocence isn’t a personal attribute; it’s given to us by God. It’s maintained by Him too, so it never goes away; it’s our eternal character, we can’t get away from it, and we can declare it just as vehemently as Job did when the human picture looked very, very bleak. Even that declaration is impelled by God.
Job’s restoration is complete when he prays for his friends—for those people who were berating him and telling him he’s really bad. He wants them to have a better understanding of God also rather than the worn-out assumptions and doctrines they were following. He wants them to understand their innocence too.
Like Job, you can triumph, loveisall. Like him, you’re innocent, no matter what everything and everyone around you are saying. And like him, you can experience God’s goodness and love and help others experience them too.
Rob Scott
- 2/6/2012Christian Science is Hope that is alive and healing. Hope is the major weapon against suicide.
Rob Scott - Chicago, IL
DW
- 4/9/2012The problem is that when you are so destroyed and depressed and you blame yourself, then you don't have the advantage that Job had when he maintained his innocence. When a person has made mistakes that allowed another to ruin their life, and there's no one to turn to who can help you, you have no hope. Suicide is not a desire for an afterlife. It's a desire to never have existed at all.
Blog Administrator
- 4/10/2012Hi DW,
Thank you for your comment. We hope this article will meet a need: http://sentinel.christianscience.com/shared/view/1k2crz4tyjw
There is always someone you can talk to. The author of the linked article above shared how he/she called a Christian Science practitioner and found that to be very helpful. An online directory of practitioners can be found here: http://christianscience.com/prayer-and-health/talk-with-someone-or-get-help
We hope these resources will be helpful to you.
Rob Scott - Chicago
- 4/17/2012DW,
I understand how you feel. You are not alone. Your spiritual innocence as the child of God can never be compromised or called into question.
God is always there with you. Right here, right now, for all eternity. You are loved and united with him regardless of what the material senses are telling you.
Psalm 139 states:
Whither shall I go from thy spirit? or wither shall I flee from thy presence? If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: If I make my bed in hell, behold thou art there. If I take thy wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea; Even there shall thy hand lead me , and thy right hand shall hold me.
The Sermon on the Mount addresses those who feel "so destroyed and depressed".
"Blessed are the poor in spirit: for their is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted."
Faith and spirituality is for those who feel they having nothing left to offer or can't go on. It is an unobstructed path to Hope. Hope is the major weapon against suicide.
God said I forgave you the first time you asked. You must now forgive yourself. Let go of all that blame, guilt, and shame. It never belonged to you. It is a erroneous mental ambush. It is not good and it didn't come from God.
Please, reach out to somebody for further help. You can contact a Christian Science practitioner at the link in previous response from Blog Administration.
Hang in there. Walk through this valley. It will get better.
Truth, Wisdom, Love, and sincerity to you!
Rob Scott
Chicago, IL